Are You in an Unhealthy Codependent Relationship?

 

Codependency is a word used to describe a relationship in which one person is the “giver-rescuer” and the other is the “taker-victim” in the equation.1

Codependency often involves enabling behaviors, where one person overexerts love or consideration to make up for their partner’s shortcomings or missteps. There is a strong link between codependency and addicts, with many addicts depending on their giver-rescuer to enable their addiction.

If you are in a codependent relationship, you are either enabling someone’s unhealthy behavior or you are depending on another individual to allow you to continue with your own missteps. It’s time to put an end to this behavior so you and your loved one can move forward with healthier behaviors.

Is Codependency Enabling?

Yes, codependency is enabling. But, it’s not always enabling an addict, it may also be enabling someone’s immaturity or other unsavory behaviors. There is a strong connection between codependency and addiction, with many addicts being codependent on their parents, partners, or others.

Signs of Codependency

Codependency can happen slowly, and your relationship may turn down this road without your realizing it. It’s important to recognize the signs of codependency in your relationships. Signs of codependency include:

  • Imbalance of responsibility in the relationship
  • Making excuses for your loved one’s behaviors
  • Overlooking violations of agreements or trust
  • Caretaking when it’s not necessary

If you suspect that you’re in a codependent relationship or that you may be enabling a loved one, our team at Banyan Heartland is here to help. Call 888-280-4763 to learn more about our programs.


Sources:

  1. NBC News - What is codependency? Signs of a codependent relationship
 
Alyssa
Alyssa
Alyssa is Banyan’s Director of Digital Marketing & Technology. After overcoming her own struggles with addiction, she began working in the treatment field in 2012. She graduated from Palm Beach State College in 2016 with additional education in Salesforce University programs. A part of the Banyan team since 2016, Alyssa brings over 5 years of experience in the addiction treatment field.